On my first blog post, I thought if nothing else, I should share a bit about my story with you.
So where do I start?
I’ve been with my husband for 5 years, but… let me back it up a little further than that.
When I was a senior in high school and all the other students where applying for college scholarships… I was writing sappy love letters to my boyfriend who was in basic training and planning our wedding around my minimum wage paying job at McDonald’s.
What can I say? I know I am not the only one who didn’t know what they wanted to be when they grew up, I just figured I did know who I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
You read that right, I married my highschool sweetheart and believe me… I’ve heard it all.
“Well, what about college?”
“You shouldn’t have to depend on someone else.”
“She’s just gonna get pregnant and end up dependent on him.”
“She’ll never make it to college now.”
“You are too young to be getting married.”
Here’s the thing, these comments sat with me for a very long time. I wanted to prove everyone wrong! Instead of looking to doing what was right for me, I pushed myself in to trying to do things I was not ready for.
Now, I know how this sounds… ready for marriage but not ready for college? It may sound backwards to some, but hear me out. I grew up watching my parents struggle with debt. I’m not blaming mommy and daddy, just putting into perspective my fear of going into student loan debt when I don’t even know what I want to go to school for!
And if you ask me, if you can depend on anyone… shouldn’t it be your spouse?
In the time we have been married, I have applied AND have been accepted to 6 different schools, completed a few semesters on campus and a few classes online. Have I earned a degree? No. Do I have any student loans to pay off? No. Everything I have tried was done on grant money, and all situations have led to the same tragic end; an end where I realize I am just not passionate about what I was studying.
Maybe I just haven’t found my niche?
Either way, I had so much built up anxiety about trying to get things figured out in a certain amount of time, I lost sight of what I could have been enjoying. I have the freedom to be with my husband when he comes home from work. I have the freedom to experiment with different part-time/full-time jobs without the pressure of paying for health insurance. I don’t mean to sound like I am bragging, but there is a stigma that comes with being a housewife, and it’s not a nice one.
Now I have worked a few good jobs here in there. Secretary work, fast food, retail, I even got into the banking business for a while. By far, the best part of being where I am in life with my husband is that when we decided to start our family, I had the option to become a stay-at-home-mom.
Again with the stigmas. Totally overrated.
Yes, I left my full-time banking job to stay at home, and this was the best choice for me. It has allowed me to not only be where I wanted when I wanted…. but I am still available to travel whenever and wherever with my family without any other obligations. I didn’t appreciate that freedom the first two years of being married. I always felt like I was supposed to be working. Like I wasn’t allowed to be happy about being at home.
Now, I know I am allowed this happiness and do you want to know why? Because I said so! If you read my about me page, then you already know that I firmly believe I am doing exactly what I am supposed to be doing right now. Yes, most people might say I did things backwards with starting my family first and planning on pursuing my career later but that is just how things are happening for me and I won’t apologize for it.
Let’s stop spreading the negative stigmas that come along with the terms “housewife” and SAHM.
We are STILL valued members in our families and we STILL have so much to offer!
Well, for now…. that’s my story!